Everything in life is transferable, at Home, at Work, or out in your community.

Everything is about relationships and how we are treated and how we treat others.  Having self-worth and understanding that only “You” can determine what it is that you want from others.

I would like to share with you a story about self-worth and being worthy, regardless if it is with your partner at home, at work or out in your community.


Understanding self-worth can be view as being selfish and being in a relationship you may need to tap into selfishness at a point in your life.

“If you give it all away, without expecting anything in return, they will take it with them when they leave.”

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:

“What kind of man are you looking for?”

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, “Do you really want to know?”

Reluctantly, he said, “Yes”

She began to expound, “As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself? I pay my own bills.  I take care of my household without the help of any man  … or woman for that matter.  I am in the position to ask, “What can you bring to the table?”

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.  She quickly corrected his thought and stated,   “I am not referring to money.  I need something more.  I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. “

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said, “I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation.  I don’t need a simple-minded man.  I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked … believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden.  I need a man who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.  I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships.  Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.  I need a man who is family-oriented.  One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.  I need someone whom I can respect.  In order to be submissive, I must respect him.  I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business.  I have no problem being submissive … he just has to be worthy.   I need someone who can see the humor in life and make me laugh. I need someone who loves music and sees the value of music in our lives, how it can make our heart sing, our soul at peace and our eyes smile.   I need someone who is not afraid of his feelings and is willing to open his heart to me, knowing I will not judge, because he will not judge me.  And by the way, I am not looking for him … He will find me.  He will recognize himself in me.  He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me.  God made woman to be a help-mate for man.  I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself. “

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.  He said, “You are asking a lot.”

She replied, “I’m worth a lot”.

Don’t ever settle … know your self-worth. That goes for both … men and woman, in any relationship at Home, at Work or out in your community.

Evelyn Waterhouse ACC