What If …

I would like to share with you a conversation I had today with a stranger.
It was about how we have accepted, as a society, destructive behaviors are the norm and constructive behaviors are the abnormal.

Let me expand on that thought for one minute.
Lets do a what if scenario.

What if …

We all had the understanding of what a healthy relationship looks like and feels like. Well we do, all of us know in our hearts, we know what a healthy relationship is or do we?

Healthy Personal Relationships

Trust – In a Healthy Personal Relationship trust is the most important.  I trust you to be free and available for a personal relationship to begin.  If either party are in an emotionally attached relationship with another person, either by marriage, dating or wishing to be with someone else, be honest, the most SELFISH thing anyone can to do to another person is creating faults hope and feelings of love for someone who is not available.  These behaviors are destructive for everyone involved, be mindful of where you are and what you want for a healthy and sustainable personal relationship to grow and develop.

Respect  – In a Healthy Relationship each person is treated with respect and are treated the way they want to be treated.  Both parties take the time to listen to each other’s opinions, their family and friends, their goals and encourage, inspire, motivate the others growth in a ground way.

Honesty – Both parties have the freedom to share their feelings, thoughts, concerns,  fears without, shame or judgment.

Equality – Both parties make decisions together.  Communication is key in any relationship, after saying that effective communication is even better. Both parties can effectively communicate their wants, needs, and desires to make sound decisions,  be it financial, social, environmental or emotional.

Humor – Both parties have FUN together.  Both parties have the understanding that life is not hard, we make it hard with are attitude about life.  Both parties can find the silliness in life.

Safe – Both parties feel safe in the relationship.  Emotionally, physically, or  psychology … no mind games.

Independence – Both parties are separate independent people, which choose an interdependent relationship. I want to be with you, and you want to be with me … Both parties are choosing each other for who they are and there is no harmful tactics to change the other person. (If you leave me I will just die or What can I do to change for you to stay with me?)

Ease – The relationship is easy.  Both parties are very comfortable in the relationship, they are feeling great about just being themselves and are OK with saying I am sorry when need be. We don’t live in a perfect world and no one is perfect, there will be misunderstandings having a healthy relationship gives you the opportunity to give a heart felt apology and then move on with life, (always a good time to tap into your humor).

Respect Sexually – Both parties are open to the wants, needs and desires of their partner. Both parties take the time to listen and respect the others sexual comfort zone.  Both parties are on the same page when it comes to sexual boundaries. Leaving your self vulnerable in this area of the relationship can be one of the most challenging.  Healthy Relationships take the time to build on the physical aspect of the relationship, they take the time to get to know him/her before the sex life begins.

These are just some of the qualities of a healthy personal relationship with the intention of it being with ONE person.  If you are a player and wish to have more then one person in a physical relationship, if that is your thing, these qualities are not for you, my I suggest you try another website for that stuff … just saying.

Know what you want, be free to articulate those wants for a healthy sustainable personal relationship. Peace, Love, Heart and Joy … I am such a hippie, just without the drugs or herpes

Have an Amazing day everyone. Please feel free to comment below, share your thoughts in a respectful way.

 

 

2 comments on “What If …

    • Evelyn on

      Hi Gina
      Thank you for your comment. Yes, lets hope that we can each play a role in sharing our understanding of what a healthy relationship is and what it is not.
      Have an amazing day, and thank you for taking the time.
      Evelyn Waterhouse

      Reply

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